You believe your partner has an anger problem
Dr. Nay is an expert on anger management. Most significantly, he provides advice about recognizing destructive dynamics and breaking dysfunctional patterns.Library Journal
Some of you are looking at this site as a way of stopping the insanity or at least the intensity of someone you love who acts angry in ways that are upsetting to you—in ways that rob the relationship of the peace and intimacy you so desire. When someone you love is angry your entire life can begin to revolve around this partner’s anger. This website is designed to help you assess your relationship and to decide if it is worthwhile to seek some new ideas or strategies. If you decide that you need a fresh perspective, help in finding resources and ideas for changing your behavior will also be offered.
- 1 Does your partner have an anger problem? Take the Self Assessment of Anger (SAQ) now as you think your partner should fill it out based on your observations of his or her anger actions to see if your partner has an anger problem and how it gets expressed. Also,
ask your partner to fill it out. Does your partner think there is a problem? Do You?
- 2 How are you coping with his or her anger? My latest book Overcoming Anger in Your Relationship: How to Stop the Cycle of Arguments, Put-Downs and Stony Silences (Guilford Press, 2010) is for you–the partner of an angry loved one. If you would like to learn more about how his or her anger may be impacting your life read the first chapter from my new book by clicking here . The book and other books on anger and relationships can be purchased by clicking here.
- 3 Take a test to evaluate how you are reacting to your partner’s anger right now. Do you get mad yourself? Do you carefully walk on eggshells? Do you quickly agree or give him or her what they want to avoid more arguing? Do you ever feel you are verbally abused or physically threatened? Take the Relationship Anger Profile (RAP) from my book Overcoming Anger in Your Relationship. Review your scores and the information about them. Answer these questions:
- Are you happy with how you react to his or her anger?
- Does the anger seem to be improving or getting worse?
- What price are you paying in altering your life and happiness by letting this anger situation continue as it is?
- Do you want things to change?
Consider hiring Dr. Nay as your personal anger coach. You can have telephone sessions at a time convenient as he guides you through what your options are for living and coping with an angry partner. Click on Anger Coaching to learn more about how it works.