How is anger and its many “faces” of expression affecting you, your life partner or a family member who you love but sometimes don’t understand? Dr. W. Robert Nay has spent the past 25 years counseling individuals, couples and families about the impact of anger in their lives.

• 1 You wonder if YOU have an anger problem? Many clients are referred because a loved one or someone else insisted anger is a problem that must be addressed. Sometimes, my clients have referred themselves to me having reached the conclusion that anger is indeed robbing them of life’s qualify and interfering with important relationships. Regardless of how you made it to this website, I want to offer you a lot of hope and many options for learning to identify your anger arousal early on and to redirect this powerful emotion in a more effective and powerful way to alter your life. Anger is a most human emotion. It’s how we express it that can cause problems. Or some of us are angry so often that the quality of our lives is literally pouted by our own anger/stress chemicals that make us tense, annoyed and irritable when there is no good reason to be that way. What to do? How to help yourself.
• 2 What kind of anger do you show to others? Anger Comes in All Shapes and “Faces.” What “Face” Do You See in the Mirror? When your expectations aren’t met and you get angry, what do you do? Most people think of raised voices or aggressive language when anger is discussed. This is actually a face of anger called “hostility” or “aggression.” But haven’t you been around others who don’t directly express their anger? They withhold or withdraw from you or others when they feel angry, called “passive-aggression,” or withdraw physically for hours or days at a time, called “cold anger.” But when does anger become a problem for you or someone you love? Go to my blog for answers.
• 3 Do you have an anger problem? Take the Self Assessment of Anger (SAQ) to see if anger is indeed occurring as a sign that all is not well in your relationships. I know it isn’t easy to talk about getting angry or losing it at times. Who wants to admit that they are passive-aggressive or sarcastic to others? But remember, this is you taking this test privately for your own edifications. Only you decide who to share the results with (or NOT). So if you would like to proceed, take the Self Assessment of Anger (SAQ) to find out if you have an anger problem.
• 4 What can you do to learn to manage your anger? First, I suggest you consider ordering one of my books. Taking Charge of Anger offers a step-by-step approach to identifying what triggers your anger, how to assess how and when to begin anger management and powerful strategies to quickly reduce your anger arousal and change the thinking that fuels more ire. How to react when someone gets in your face or tries to provoke you? Also in the book!

Consider hiring Dr. Nay as your “Anger Coach.” With telephone coaching you can begin to bring the ideas of anger management to life for you. In just a few sessions at a time convenient you can work with Dr. Nay to implement what you have learned and to assess how to begin getting started on an anger management plan. Click on Personal Anger Coaching to learn more.